I have been corresponding with Alana since August when I signed up with Elena’s Models. I suppose that I emailed about 40 or so women & about 1/2 replied. Additionally, I received unsolicited emails from another 15 or 20 other women. I’m sure every guy has his own set model of what he’s looking for, in my case I wanted a woman no older than 35 (I’m interested in having a family some day) and has no kids of her own. If you have your own children and you are not interested in having any more I guess that marrying a woman with previous children is no big deal, but if you are looking to start your own family – I hate to be the dick and say this – but why squander your resources on some other man’s spawn? Perhaps its just my opinion, but as hard as it is in life, if you don’t look out for yourself, who will?
Within a week or two, I had narrowed my search down to about 8-10 women and I began corresponding with them. Of them all, Alana and I seemed to have a natural “click.” I would write her long 3 and 4 page emails and she would reply in kind and when I read her letters, I felt as if I could have written them myself. I sent her a LOT of photos and she did the same. I’d rather send a few bad photos and have the woman say “no” than to only send nice photos and have her tell me no after I’ve flown 1/2 way to Siberia.
With each passing week, we seemed to write daily or every other day. I found that I would check my email 2 and 3 times a day looking for a letter from her and she admitted that she did the same. We talked at great length about life, work, family, travel, hobbies, nutrition, fitness – well, we talked about almost everything.
One by one, I began “weeding out” the other candidates and by early November, there were only 2 or 3. I emailed Alana and told her of my plans to visit her in Russia and she was delighted. When I next logged in to Elena’s I saw that she had removed her profile and left a message that she was no longer interested in additional letters. I closed my profile also.
In hindsight, it was probably the best ninety bucks I ever spent in my life.
I think my eHarmony subscription was three times as much and dinner and a movie in the US is easily as much.
We talked about meeting on video Skype and or chatting on the telephone but decided not to in the end. I had told her, and she agreed, that meeting over the internet was merely a chance to “de-select” possible candidates. It isn’t until you meet, face-to-face, that you will know if you have any chemistry. I really felt that we had a lot in common and the only question unresolved was how we would feel about each other in person.
I flew out to Western Russia in the third week of November and we met and I can’t say that I’ve ever had a more natural and spontaneous connection with a woman in my whole life. Her personality was an exact match to the style of her writing and she looked the same as in her photos. Her voice and mannerisms were not quite as I had imagined, but not in a bad way, just different. I remember the night of our first meeting and as we talked and I watched her smile and listened to her voice I began to have feelings that I thought would take a lot longer to develop.
I suppose that being “picky” in the beginning and only focusing on the women that I was very attracted to who ALSO had a lot in common with me and were also attracted to me paid off. Despite how well you are matched for a woman in goals, physical appearance and other factors, there is no getting around chemistry and in this, I was very lucky. We had an instant chemistry and it grew each day that we visited.
In all, I stayed for 3 weeks. We met every week day after she got off of work and for the length of each day on the weekends. By the end of the three weeks we were making plans to meet again and I was hopeful about a future with her.
Will post more as time allows; needless to say, between a new relationship, Christmas, New Years and then (Orthodox) Christmas again, it has been a busy Winter season.
* Note: the woman in the photo above is “not” Alana – I selected the profile photo of a woman with a similar profile – I suppose that this lucky woman – Nadezdha – will get some “extra” publicity for her profile.
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