It seems that everyday I hear that he and she are “partners.” She’s not his girlfriend, his “live-in,” fiance or even wife. No, she’s a partner now.
When did this happen?
In the movie “Ameican Beauty,” a pair of gay neighbors bring over a “welcome basket” to the Marine who lives next door. They introduce themselves as “partners,” and he asks, “What business are you in?”
It seems that not too long ago (certainly in the last decade), a partner was someone you did business with. Not now, now its your wife. Another sneaky feminist infection in our society. I even head Alana call me her partner and I quickly cut that off. I said to her, “Are we in business together? I am your fiance and I will be your husband, but I will never be your partner.” If a lesbian couple wants to refer to themselves as “partners,” more power to them. But if you EVER let you woman call you her partner, you might as well just cut off your balls and hand them over to her.
I told Alana that she can call me fiance and later husband and if she wants to refer to me as something “all encompassing” as seems to be the trend with the use of the word partner, she can call me her mate.
Let’s think about this for a moment. Are you going into business with your woman or are you mating with her? What is really the more appropriate title? When you call your woman your partner you are already setting up the expectation of that reality. If you are searching for an Eastern European bride, this is a huge mistake. I recommend that you refer to your woman as your mate as this is a more appropriate and accurate title.
And so, I went to the online dictionaries expecting to find the traditional definition of partner and it seems that the tenacles of feminism have already spread everywhere.
The Merriam-Webster online dictionary has already gone to the dark side:
noun \ˈpärt-nər also ˈpärd-\
: someone’s husband or wife or the person someone has sexual relations with
: one of two or more people, businesses, etc., that work together or do business together
: someone who participates in an activity or game with another person
It then lists the “archaic” definition as:
“One that shares”
I see, if you believe that the definition of partner means husband or wife you are normal. If you believe that the word implies a business-like context, you are “archaic.” LOL
Dictionary.com has the traditional definition as:
[pahrt-ner] Show IPA
a person who shares or is associated with another in some action or endeavor; sharer; associate.
a. a person associated with another or others as a principal or a contributor of capital in a business or a joint venture, usually sharing its risks and profits.
b. special partner.
But, even Dictionary.com has “progressed” as their 4th definition reads:
4. a spouse; a husband or a wife.
If we go back to the etymology of the word partner, we find:
partner (n.) c.1300, altered from parcener (late 13c.), from Old French parçonier “partner, associate; joint owner, joint heir,” from parçon”partition, division. portion, share, lot,” from Latin partitionem (nominative partitio) “a sharing, partition, division, distribution” (see partition (n.)). Form in English influenced by part (n.). The word also may represent Old French part tenour “part holder.”partner (v.) 1610s, transitive, “to make a partner,” from partner (n.). Intransitive sense from 1961. Related: Partnered; partnering.
This may be a subtle change in our society but it really is the transformation of a patriarchal society to a feminist society. Whereas a traditional marriage defines a husband and wife as an institution of two parties who are dissimilar but have an equal stake in the marriage. In a corporate structure, we could compare the arrangement between the president of a company and its shareholders. Both are equally important; the president runs the company and makes certain decisions and the shareholders have an equity stake in the company and vote for the board of directors. But at no time do we consider the president and the shareholders to be “partners.” To find partners we might look to a medical practice or a law firm wherein 3 or 4 individuals hold an equity stake in the practice, make day to day operations decisions and share equally in the the rewards and losses of the business. When you begin to call your woman a partner, you are saying to her, and to society, that you are the same. This is truly the heart of feminism.
Men and women are not the same. This is the primary failure of feminism; it demands equality when it is physically (and genetically) impossible. As Alana says, “What Olympic team have you seen that runs by vote? There is always a coach and a captain.”
For some men, they want a strong woman who brings home a paycheck and takes 1/2 of the decision making process. If you are this man, save yourself a trip and don’t go to Eastern Europe. If you look back at the Western women of the 1950’s with a sentimental eye and you want to be the captain of your household, do go to Eastern Europe. And for goodness sake, don’t refer to your woman as your “partner.” Call her what she is, your girlfriend, fiance, wife or your mate, certainly not your ‘life-partner.”
Good luck in your search!
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