1/27/14 3:00 AM
Yesterday was the second (last) meet and greet. It was, as predicted, much better than the first one. My opening changed from Name > Job > Lifestyle to Name > Age > Serious Intent > Have girls introduce themselves. Also, instead of telling them my job, I explained to them that in the past it is hard to explain b/c the job is so much different in Ukraine, but I wanted them to know 3 things: 1. Medical field 2. Work as much/little and can still support a large family 3. Can work anywhere in the U.S. b/c lots of jobs. If they pushed the question harder, then I say that I am a Dr.
I have decided that if the girl knows too much English, then she is not as much fun to talk to. Maybe it is because when they do not have to focus on speaking English too much then think thy have superiority to the other women at the table (probably right). The ones that spoke some English, however, were too cute. Three women really stood out to me, compared to none at the first event. The first was Inna, 19 y/o, who is a small girl who obviously had a genuine personality even though she spoke only Russian. The second was a 42 y/o. I cannot remember her name [Natalia] but we dominated the conversation at her table. She has a similar profession to mine (the one mine is confused for, in fact) but we had a crazy good time talking about the differences between us. While we would have no intentions of fostering romantic interests, I would love to spend an hour or two chatting with her more. Also very cool is that TDH, who has not felt much connection either, liked her and will most likely have a date. On the topic of older women, one tried to interest me in her 17 y/o daughter, and was describing her to me instead of telling me about herself.
The third was 24, knew ~50% English. She was named Valerie? Very smart, engineer, warm and genuine personality. She is my top pick from the social events. [This one happens to have been Seth’s special lady-friend. She’s actually 20, and her name is not Valerie like I thought, but I like it so I’m sticking with it.]
I had a bowling date last night with Marina; the film crew was there to film it. Right before I left, Anna Davis advised me to break up with the girl b/c she seemed too impressionable, that she was saying how much she liked me too early but not showing any other signs of reciprocating my advances. This confirmed by gut feeling I had after the first date that I played off as too much – too soon. We played 1 game because it was her first time and her wrist hurt. She said that she wanted the cameras to stop, so I told them and they immediately and respectfully did so (and thanked me for letting them film as long as they had). We went to a Turkish themed restaurant. Ordered cheese and Shastlik (meat on a stick). Talked about movies and it turns out Marina and I have opposite tastes in movies and literature.
The end of the date I tell her that I had a good time, that she is a special girl, but I do not fell the connection between us that I expected to feel. She got very quiet and thus began the agonizingly slow time for the check to arrive. Outside the restaurant, as she was leaving, she whispered in my ear, “I really like you, I want to see you more, if you want to, call me.” She gave me a last kiss on the cheek and left in the taxi I had paid for her. I wondered if I was cruel for having another date (this one) with her when I knew I was going to reject her… This realization happening right before a date made it impractical, however. I believe Anna Davis was right though, I don’t feel as though I am missing anything by not seeing her again.
I have a museum date with a 26 y/o Galina tomorrow. She has a 5 y/o kid. Child will probably not be there. I do not think the girl is pretty, and I really don’t like a woman to have a child at my age, but my translator set it up for me and I will go b/c I do want to meet many women. Maybe she will change my mind about her. Probably not. Don’t tell anyone, but I know she had a date with a 53 year old man right after the social, and I guess they really hit it off. He told me, “Don’t be surprised if she is already in love with someone else.” (him) [While I personally confused Galina’s aggressiveness for dating lots of men as a sign of desperation (having a child) in the end it turned out that she may have been trying to take advantage of they guys. I don’t know the full story, but needless to say she will not be attending any DCT events in the future.]
I also had the older (50+) men tell me who they thought the best girls my age were. Got a few more girls on my priority list. During the conversation, one of the translators overheard us talking about the girls and told us to stop, that it’s against the rules to compare notes because it may taint the group’s opinion against a woman. While there certainly were some candid opinions going amongst the four of us, we reproached her as our goal was to help me find girls I would want to date, not warn me away from any. She left with a dubious attitude. The general consensus became that she had no reason to demand what we talk about (or not) because WE are the ones paying to be here.
I am excited that Anna thinks that she has found a good match for me, one who she interviewed that day (Sunday) and did not get to stay at the social. Anna has a reputation for being right about these things. Mark Davis thinks he knows who it is when I mentioned it at the bar to him tonight, but he “doesn’t want to jinx it”. The girl is Olya, 22 [actually 19]. I look forward to meeting her. I woke at the time listed and could not fall asleep again, so I write this now. It is 4:20 now, and I am done, so I will try to sleep until 8:00 AM.
These later entries are a little longer, so bear with me as I work up the time to get them all in one go. I’m not quite half-way through with this account. When I go back, I plan on doing my best to have a date with Inna, as well as a Larisa and a pair of Victorias.
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