Perhaps the most recurring argument that has come up since I started this website is whether or not feminism is as pervasive in our society as I say it is. Friends, colleagues and family all say, “we now understand the appeal of Russian Women,” but that how they are versus how American women are is a result of cultural differences, not feminism. True, the differences between Eastern and Western women are because of cultural differences. But the cultural difference that separates the Western women from women from the rest of the world is the culture of feminism. The culture of feminism (yes, it is a culture) has spread its tentacles into every facet of American life.
Weekly, I am reminded of it on Facebook. This well-wishing writer thought that they would create some heroic and chivalrous message to cheer on women and all that they are. But if you look closely, it is a feminist message.
I’ll agree with part of the message: Fathers, be your daughter’s first love. This is true. Every woman who I’ve known that bounces from bad relationship to bad relationship had a poor excuse for a father or no father at all. Women who had a strong father are strong women and expect to be treated well.
But, there is a difference between being treated well, and being treated like a man, or like being treated as a princess. What is really wrong with the vast majority of American women [conservative Christian, Muslim, Mormon, etc women excluded ;-) ] is that many (if not most) have a “princess syndrome.” They think that every man should treat them as though they are royalty. The problem is, they don’t realize that being a princess comes with a lot of grace, (usually) keeping your mouth shut and otherwise, playing a quite feminine role.
This FB message, tries to capture the idea that Dad should be a stong and loving role model for his daughter(s) (he should). But it also tries to convey the idea that Father should treat his daughter like a mini-adult, giving her the same kind of reverence that he gives to his wife. I think that this is wrong. While a Father should be loving to his daughter, he should treat her well, but treat her as the “C” member of the Family. If Father is the Alpha, and Mother is the Beta, than daughter should be treated like the Charlie. Father shouldn’t be pulling out his daughter’s chair. Daughter should be bringing Father coffee. Daughter should be helping Mother cook dinner for Father.
This message says that Fathers should show a daughter how she should be treated so that she will never settle for “anything less.” Men, if you have daughters and you’re reading this, don’t ever do this. Don’t treat your daughter like a little princess and forever ruin her for the “average” man.
I mean really, are Father’s supposed to pull out the chair for their 5-year-old daughters? What kind of message is this sending to children? That they run the house? That they have Daddy wrapped around their finger? It is no wonder that we have so many spoiled American women. When Alana’s Father speaks, everyone (and I mean everyone, male and female) listens up and does as told. No one cries, “But you didn’t pull out my chair.” Interestingly, Alana is the strongest Woman I know. She learned how a Man should treat a woman by watching how her Father treated her Mother.
If you want to have a strong, resilient and feminine daughter, treat your Wife well in front of your daughter, but treat your daughter like a daughter, not as a social or intellectual equal.
Here is another silly little cliché photo I saw on Facebook:
What exactly is a strong woman?
Is this what we’re talking about?
When I think about a strong Russian Woman, I think of one thing. When I think of a strong American woman I think of a demanding & spoiled woman. What I would rather see is a post that says:
Here’s to Graceful Women:
May we Know them.
May we Be them.
May we Raise them.
We seem to have lost all of our graceful women. Where have they all gone? They have been converted into feminists who believe that it is more important to be manlike than to be graceful. It is sad. Fortunately, there are still millions of graceful women east of the old Berlin Wall.
Here is a snapshot of a feminist (who also happens to be a butch lesbian) and her shot at acting gracefully. This is a message left by said butch-lesbian to a Man who posted that butch-lesbians should stop “borrowing” the word masculine from Men (I guess he thought that lesbian she-men should have a different adjective for their “masculinity”).
Feeling a bit threatened, are you? These butches don’t have to understand a damned thing. I’d like to see you go and tell these 9 that you have it all figured out and you have determined that they have to bow down and kiss your ass and cannot “borrow the term masculine” or “exhibit masculine traits like boy haircuts or mens clothing or even stubble” without YOUR permission. While you are lording over the fact that you have a d*ck, add a tenth person to the mix–that would be me; I refuse to acknowledge a f*cking thing according to YOU–and tell you that the response will probably be a resounding “F*ck You.” How dare you think that you own masculinity, masculine traits, clothing and stubble? You’re more f*cked-up than a dog’s breakfast.
*** Language edited. From an interesting article titled: “Portraits of butch women proving masculinity is a trait not a gender.” Whether or not femininity is a trait rather than a gender, I don’t know. All I do know is that I prefer a feminine woman and there are few of them in America.
Back to my original thought: Feminism teaches that women can have everything and anything. Like Spiderman’s uncle told him, “With great power, comes great responsibility.” Perhaps this is the largest failing of feminism. Feminism teaches so much about taking and “sharing” power but does so little to educate women as to being graceful. The message above is very typical of how so many women talk in America. It is crass, it is rude and it is NOT feminine in any way.
This last message, it starts off with good intentions. It is one of these “I love God (or Jesus) and you should too” messages. While I applaud the religious sentiments of the author, this otherwise religious message has been dipped into the stinking pool of feminism and what has emerged is a typical “I’m a Princess” and everyone should worship me (I wonder where she got that idea?).
I showed this to Alana and she laughed and said, “So, with six billion people on this planet, does this mean we have 3 billion Princesses? We are all children of God after all.” She makes a good point. It’s not enough to say that God loves me and I’m special because of it. No, now she’s a princess and you should treat her like one!
I’ve challenged the readers of this blog to take a look at our Western society. And as you do, be cognizant of the fact that feminism has permeated our entire society. Notice that you (even if you are a man) have feminist sentiments and that you act in a way that is synchronous with feminism. You can’t help it, you’ve been indoctrinated.
But, if you plan to go East and search for your “soul mate,” don’t take that feminist baggage along with you. You won’t be respected by the Eastern Women and you’ll likely get your heart fed back to you on a plate. To fit into the role of a traditional male, you have to act like a traditional male. In order to do this, you must first recognize all the feminism that surrounds you. After all, you can’t really change something that you don’t recognize.
And some day, if you have a daughter, don’t infect her, or let her get infected with this silly Princess syndrome. Love your children, but be a strong Man. Show your daughter(s) what a strong Man looks like so that she will seek out the same.
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