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Of the 95% of the crap I see on Facebook, occasionally an Aunt or other relative will post something valuable. I saw this article and expected it to be another feminist male-bashing rape culture story. But whoa, it wasn’t. In fact, this author has 5 tips for married women that could be called, uh, well, common sense. Interestingly, Alana’s Mother raised her to think this way – “Keep your husband happy.” Modern women have lost this idea in the ever increasing desire to be the center of attention. Feminism really is a selfish proposition whereas the values that our Grandmothers were raised with are selfless and family oriented. This article touches this topic and, if you are a woman and while reading this you’re shocked, then you know you’re a feminist.

5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage

You might be surprised to figure out you are doing these five destructive things that will ultimately ruin your relationship with your spouse.

article by Katelyn Carmen

When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions.

Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.

Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage (as a caveat, please understand that although this article is directed toward women, it applies to men as well):

1. Living outside of what you can afford

A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”

Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.

Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.

Yes, you may not have enough to buy that Kate Spade bag you’ve had your eyes on for months, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.

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2. Constant negativity

You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind throughout the day.

Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy. It’s okay to have a bad day once in a while, that’s totally understandable, but don’t make it a way of life.

3. Putting everything else first

When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?

Put your husband first.

Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because they neglect to care and love one another and put each other first.

If you choose to put each other first, you will find a lot of joy.

4. Withholding physical affection

Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them.

Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.

It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (when you can) and spend that time bonding.

5. Not speaking his language

Women love to drop hints. (I think it’s part of our DNA.) But men just don’t get them. (I think that is a part of their DNA.)

Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind and emotions. Be open about how you really feel.

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  1. Hello Scott,

    First, I want to commend you for your great blog. I have been reading your material for around 1/2 year or more and I get a kick on how you hammer on the feminists, and still keep on ticking after their counter-punches. You tell it like it is and every guy out there who is dimly interested in having an EE for a wife, should play close attention to what Scott says.

    I am a full blooded American, a US military veteran, in fact. I had been living in Ukraine for over two years, having met the most wonderful woman in my life, and getting married and settled in Ukraine. Due to the war and the potential hazards for me, as a veteran, we displaced ourselves and have settled in Germany. She doesn’t have a US visa, and because its very difficult to get a visa in a timely manner, if a US citizen is living in Ukraine; I was able to safely get her out and into the EU and now she has a temporary Resident Permit. I don’t recommend this for guys who want to get their lady out of Ukraine. The fastest way is with the fiance visa. Once you marry in Ukraine, you’ve actually slowed your process of getting her to the US. We never had any intention of going to the US and that’s the main reason we married in Ukraine. We were living a life of peace and happiness until Putler showed the real ass that he is. Its just lucky and a blessing that my ties to the US military afforded me the opportunity to find work on a US base, thus opening the door for her to enter the EU. Complicated process but I found a way through God’s help.
    And here’s the other side of this story. Not only did we displace, but we did it while she was in her 6 month of pregnancy! This story is an incredible one, and you can’t make this stuff up. We are expecting our baby to be born in the coming weeks.
    What is amazing, that in view of these trials and tribulations, my wife has been a stalwart and incredible woman, soon to be mother and wife. She is happy, content, positive and doesn’t miss her home!! She said she has skype and that’s good enough for her to talk to family. She doesn’t speak German and just a few words of English. (I immersed myself into her culture and learned Russian, which is our tongue at home). So, she’s in new country, uncomfortably pregnant, war, economic stress in Ukraine, and yet, she wakes up every day – positive, energetic, supportive. I am working nearly 80 hours a week, because Germany is expensive, need so many things for the baby, new apartment, etc, and she is at home – cooking for me, knitting and sewing for the baby. She watches Ukrainian programs through her computer. I am always asking if she’s bored, misses home, misses her family and each and every time she says no. I am her family, she always answers with.

    We have met a couple of Ukrainian ladies, and they’ve given her their mobile number, but she never calls. She just talks to her mom and family in Ukraine. I want to remind you, she was a lawyer in Ukraine, but once we became married, she gave it up, because she wanted to be home with me, because she told me, I was her family. Now, its all about our baby. She doesn’t worry that we have no one to help us, and no family will be here to adore with us or to assist my wife. We we will be alone together for Christmas and New Year’s, but none of that is an issue. She’s just happy to be safe and content in our new apartment and that I am out there, working 7 days a week to make a living for us. If anything I have learned about a GOOD Ukrainian lady – she will wait for her man to come home, because she RESPECT’S his work ethic and she won’t criticize him for working “too much.” I don’t have one single worry about her love for me. I am able to work 80 hours a week knowing that its appreciated. I come home to a warm meal, huge hugs and kisses, freshly ironed shirts and washed clothes, and she’s as happy as a pig in a blanket, because she knows its all for her and our baby.

    Interesting side note. One of the Ukr ladies we met is married to an American. She’s also lived in Germany about 1/2 of her life. The other week, we spent a Sunday (my only day off sometimes) together on a couples date at the Christmas market. While the two girls sauntered off somewhere, my American new buddy and I talked business. Later, as we were going home, my wife told me that her new Ukr acquaintance had lightly admonished my wife for not insisting that I give her a diamond of some sort to celebrate our recent 2 year anniversary. My wife had told her that I had bought her a huge, beautiful plant with a white flower and how my wife as so happy for that. But, because our Ukr lady has already been exposed to Western culture, she expects from her US husband, material things for anniversaries, holidays and birthdays. I had warned my wife about this and so she wasn’t surprised by this. That was two weeks ago and my wife has called her up to even say hello. I think that since my warning came true to life, she’s not going to waste her time by hanging around her and receiving more influencing or divergent thinking. This is not the type of thinking of a GOOD Ukr lady, because she knows that the money being made for the family, is to buy a new home, or new car, or new washer/dryer, and not to be spent on diamonds. First things first. Diamonds can be bought later. The home is the first priority.

    For Christmas, I asked my wife what she wanted and she said nothing. She wants to wait until we return to Ukr this summer, because she’s always wanted a real fur coat. Because she preserves and treasures our money, she is willing to wait until this summer, when we can go to Ukr and due to the super strong USD and EUR, we can buy such a coat for much less than Germany. She just simply amazes me due to her thoughtfulness towards our family money and how she wants to protect it.

    So, I want to close by commenting on this article that I just read, “5 Ways Women…” Its a great article, mind you, but its laughable. My wife (who is 25 years younger than me, by the way), didn’t or doesn’t need a “manual” on how to take care of her husband. In Ukraine, these 5 ways are somehow sewn into the hearts of ladies there (the good ones…there are not so good ladies, too, thanks to the influences of the West) and therefore, its laughable that a Western woman needs this “manual” to save her marriage and keep her husband. Western women who suck, will never be able to stand next to a Ukrainian lady with the values that my wife has. You could stack 100 Western ladies on top of each other and still not match my wife.

    I will make this recommendation to any good guy out there looking for a Ukrainian wife….please try not to put too much value in the online websites. They are tricksters, scammers and illusionists. Yes, Ukraine women are the MOST BEAUTIFUL in the world, hands down, and they know this because Western men are piling into the websites and telling them this. Therefore, those ladies that are on websites have now discovered that they are a priceless commodity and can develop a price point for their goods and services. Your best bet to meet an honest and true lady, is to take the time and go there for yourself and live in an apartment. Join an English club, find an international club where students/business people meet up for social affairs. Join a sports club. Just meet people naturally, but you need to take the time to do it. Don’t set up some trip with these dating sites, whether its AFA, Dream Connections or whatever, because there isn’t enough time to truly connect with someone. Seriously, do you expect some true and honest and gorgeous lady to fall in love with you after a 2 day visit to her city? Or 8 days? And do you know how many women find it utterly distasteful that you are in her country to meet oodles of ladies? How special does she feel after knowing that? You guys are being taken by the marketing wizards of these dating sites and it makes me puke every time I see them put up another successful relationship (most of them are with translators, wonder why….).

    Scott, I have been holding back all of these months, of not knowing what to say or how much to say, but I guess this article you posted, clicked in me and plus you asked for veterans to put out some advice. I hope this helps, mates. Best wishes to all, Merry Christmas and may 2015 bring you with the lady of your dreams. Congrats to you Scott on your marriage to Alana and may God bless all of you.
    Rodney – OUT.

    • Rodney,

      First off, thanks for your long and thorough comment. I am always pleased when we get some good reports “from the field.”

      In reading your story/bio, I find a lot in common with myself. I’ve done the military thing, living overseas and I’ve dated women from many different countries (and lived in a few too). It is always interesting to me that Men who have lived overseas and dated women overseas have about NO patience for American women. It really is like living at the Hilton for a few years and then you have to stay at a budget hotel in a bad neighborhood.

      What stands out most to me about Alana – and much like your Woman, is that they are educated, come from outstanding work backgrounds (top of the pay grade in their own countries) and yet they still choose to be a wife and mother rather than fight it out in a board room in some office. American women are raised to “poo poo” on marriage, being a wife and motherhood and taught that the ONLY WAY TO FIND HAPPINESS is through independent living combined with their own salary – an existence that relies on Men in no way. Eastern European Women on the other hand, are looking for a strong Man who wants to lead them.

      It all really boils down to feminism and I can beat the drum all day but until an American Man goes over and sees/experiences it for himself, it is like an astronaut trying to describe the feeling of space travel to someone who’s never even been in an airplane.

      Alana left behind her job (her own commpany), her parents, siblings, friends, her car, her pets – everything. And every day she tells me how happy she is to be with me. That I am the most important thing in her life and that she will follow me anywhere I go in the world. I’ve NEVER had an American woman tell me that she would walk away from her family, job, pets, best friend, siblings, etc., just to follow ME anywhere I wanted to go.

      As for dating websites – after 10 years going back and forth to Eastern Europe, I have dated my fair share of Russian and Ukrainian Women. I never met the one that I knew “was the one.” On a fluke I signed up to Elena’s and saw my Wife’s photo the first week. I emailed her, she replied and it was like I wrote her letter – we were in sync from the get go.

      I will say this on this subject: whether you believe in destiny or fate or not, you just never know where lightning will strike for you. But I know this, Edison said, “Luck is when preparation meets with opportunity.” And it seems that those who are prepared are always lucky. And it seems that the guys who go to Russia/Ukraine end up marrying an Russian or Ukrainian Woman. If you don’t go, if you don’t try, you’ll never be lucky.

      • Hello Scott and Fans of Western Women Suck!

        Follow up to my letter. My beautiful wife and I had our daughter in January. She’s as beautiful as her mom. My wife is the consummate mother to our daughter. We’ve now been in Germany since October, and to this day, my wife has never been homesick for Ukraine (I have, curiously enough!).
        I work 10 hours a day, 6-7 days a week, and she never complains that I am “gone all day,” or “she’s stuck with the baby all day,” or “you don’t give me any attention.” You guys know what I am talking about when a Western woman has your baby.

        Instead, its the opposite. I am happy and proud that my husband, father of our daughter, is working hard to support us. She actually respects me MORE for working harder! I’ve never had an American woman say that! Every single day, every waking hour, I am thankful for the Ukrainian angel that I married and with whom has given us another angel.

        Guys, I am telling you from a man who has LIVED in Ukraine for 2 years……there are no other women like them in the world. Just stay away from the agencies, please and the tour frauds. I’ve seen with my own eyes both of these actors (online agencies/tour operators), and nothing replaces good ol’ fashioned “living off the land.” In other words, try to carve out time from your busy work schedules and spend ample time in Ukraine. Lviv is safe, welcoming, charming and adorable, highly educated ladies are there. But, nothing beats meeting someone naturally. Pick a city, rent an apartment (unbelievably cheap and fully furnished), join a club, offer to teach English, join a sports team. Whatever you can do to put you into contact with people. You will ultimately meet the kindest, warmest and prettiest lady without these damn agencies!!!! And when people find that you are a good guy, they’ll actually look and ask friends and families if anyone is looking for a husband and will set you up!!! They love romance and cherish it more than our commercialized, “what have you given me lately,” western counterparts.

        I wish you all the very best.

        • Rodney,

          I completely agree; every day Alana compliments me more and more and makes me feel like a Man. Her sister was speaking Russian to their little 8 month old baby and was saying, “That’s what your Father says, and we know that Father knows best.” Here is a Woman PROGRAMMING her child that her father is wisest and to always listen to him. When was the last time you’ve ever heard a Western woman say something like that?

          • Great insight. BTW, I forgot to pass on an extremely important aspect of giving respect to the fathers in the Ukrainian culture. Our daughter bears my first name as her middle name. So her middle name is Rodneyovna. When we have a son, he would be Rodneyivich. I might be a little wrong on a letter or two, but just trying to give you the gist. Its extremely respectful and endearing to know that my daughter will always have her father with her, even when she marries and loses her maiden name. And another note: on our daughter’s 1 month birthday, our Ukr family gathered in Babushka’s house to enjoy food and spirits in honor of our daughter. They shared the moment with my wife on skype. My American family members have no such tradition. Just more reasons why I love these people so much. Just so sorry for what they are having to endure through at this time. Take care all. Rodney

          • Congrats Rodney!

            …and wow. Thanks for the insight about the agencies and tours. I still think some of the online sources are more legit than others but I still fall in your camp. I’d always preferred boots on ground experiences.

            What do you guys think about meeting EE girls in the West? I mean the single ones that have lived outside their homeland for about 3 to 5 years or less? I personally think it would be better to meet a potential wife in her homeland.

            You mentioned a 25 year age difference. Good for you! In your opinion, how old is the average Ukr/Rus girl willing to go if she’s in her early to mid 20s? I’m in my 30s, so would waiting until my 40s work too much against me? I want (healthy) children (produced without fertility procedures) before I turn 50, which is one of the main reasons I will not marry a woman over the mid 20s range.

          • And you must ask yourself, how did this EE Woman come to be in the US? She married an American and then divorced him after she got her green card. Is that the woman you wan’t to marry? A certain percentage of EE women coming over will not be “permanently marriage minded.” I don’t want to marry a woman who thinks of marriage as an “means to an end.”

          • Hi Seeker. Thanks for the congrats. While I was living in Ukraine with my wife, we did some low key matchmaking, and within a short time, we had 1 couple marry in Louisiana. Another couple is marrying this week in California and another couple are getting ready to unite in Florida. I am telling you this, just to add some background to my insights and why I know what I am talking about. I didn’t advertise on the internet because I preferred low key, more one on one personal service for the men and to give the ladies more anonymity, so they weren’t bombarded by men. I would arrange a skype chat and both parties would skype 3 times for an hour each, and then I would ask them each what they thought and if they wanted to continue. My reason for this, is because I found out the hard way, that if the couple skypes more than 3 times, actual feelings begin to develop. One lady had skyped with a gentleman about 7 times, and he wasn’t feeling it, so we discretely introduced him to another lady, with whom he fell in love, and who is getting married this week in California. The original lady was shattered, quit our services and I felt horrible for her. She was coming by bus for an hour, so she could chat with this gentleman, and that’s when we prescribed the 3 skype rule. With all that being said, I want to get around to answering your question Seeker.

            These are the key takeaways from my observations with these ladies.

            1. It was very hard to find the good, precious ladies, that were willing to try and meet a western man. Most ladies were not interested in leaving Ukraine. Most ladies have heard horror stories on their TV, from friends, read articles, about western men not being so “special” after all. These ladies know thanks to multi-media, how attractive they are. They see the “Wal-mart” photos, showing fat, despicably dressed women in pajamas and slippers in US stores. They know “why” men are coming to Ukraine and the good girls aren’t going to give it away that easily because they don’t want to be seduced and then dropped for one of her countrywomen. They know how beautiful they all are and competition is tough, believe me. Great for us as men, because we get to enjoy their amazing beauty and fashions as they gracefully walk to the stores for a loaf of bread.

            2. They hate being a number. Meaning, a good girl will simply ignore you if she thinks you are there to play or date other ladies.

            3. A good girl will NOT go to a Tour Agency function. Its insulting and hurtful to be looked at like a produce item in the grocery store, and not be picked!

            4. You don’t have to be rich or exceptionally good looking to find a warm hearted, passionate and loving Ukrainian lady to become your wife. You just need to make enough money to support her and your family. Believe me, we were living on my Veterans disability pension in Ukraine, but I was also making some money with the “small matchmaking,” and teaching English. We had no car, didn’t need one. And now here in Germany, I feel like I am square one, buying a car, getting our own place, buying furniture, saving to buy a home, etc. Its actually better for our relationship because rather than already having it all, we are working together to build it up.

            5. You do have to be a MAN with these ladies. You must pay for everything (it doesn’t show that you are rich, it shows that you are the MAN, taking care of her and your future family). Most western men really get this one confused. They think because the lady expects you to pay for everything, she is scamming you. NO! They are all about the family and want to know if you are MAN enough to take care of one.

            You must make MANLY decisions. Western men are afraid if they hold their ground on something and don’t concede, they’ll lose the girl. Yes, you will lose the girl if you act like a pansy and give in to everything she asks for. A good Ukr girl respects a strong man. This means that her MAN is a wall for her. Strong, enduring, hard working. He takes care of business, her worries. In return, this MAN receives unconditional, incredible amounts of love, affection, support and his house is their kingdom, because she will take care of it, him and their children without even blinking!!!!

            Now, I am not saying you don’t present her with nice gifts, every now and then. But, don’t spoil her either. Flowers go so far, you can’t imagine. Flowers on anniversaries monthly are so welcomed. My wife, before we were married, asked about getting a new laptop because hers was old. I told her not now because we were saving for our wedding. She did a little pout, but I remained steadfast. A few months later, on our 1 year anniversary of meeting, I surprised her when we stopped in an electronics store. I had made arrangements prior with the sales guy, having already paid for a “pink” colored notebook, and innocently strolled in there with her. I started staring at the notebook so her attention would be drawn to it and asked her if she liked it (I knew she would because she loves pink), and she said yes, and the guy came around with a new one in the box and I said, “Happy Anniversary, baby.” That got me a whole bunch of kisses right then and there. I believe that by not buying that computer when she asked for it had more meaning to this gift when it was presented on a meaningful day such as our anniversary. Additionally, I just give her a set amount of money each month, so she can buy whatever she wants and never feels she has to ask me for it. One of my 2d jobs pays me in cash currently and when I come home, I just give it all to her. She stashes it away and calls it “Black Day” money.

            Ok Seeker, I still haven’t answered your question. So much to say because Scott has really done some amazing work here and I just want to supplement him with my knowledge.

            It is of my opinion, based on the info you presented, Seeker, that you find a lady from the mid 20’s. Younger than that and you are asking for more risk. Young Ukr ladies are like any other ladies in the world. They are having fun, don’t know what they want, and mostly they don’t know you. If you had grown with her and gone to University with her, then yes, perhaps, the chances of marrying her are much higher. But, its harder for a foreign man, I believe to find a serious younger lady. After she’s lived some life, had some heartbreaks perhaps, in mid 20’s to late 20’s, I believe they make the best prospects for a foreign man. Their mind is more open and understanding and can relate better. And in this age period, they are very most likely ready to start a family. So, be very prepared to start a family early on, after your marriage. Its expected and wanted. They want and love kids so much, its just so incredible.

            6. Do what you say, mean what you say. If you make a promise, keep it. Be a gentleman always. They have no respect for a man without manners. Put on her coat for her, help her take off her boots. Open doors, offer your hand out of taxis, buses. Never, ever forget to not be a gentleman.

            7. Don’t get drunk. Drink socially.

            8. If a Ukr lady falls in love with you, be prepared for her to get jealous if you show interest in other ladies, or you talk to long to the waitress. They are serious about their relationships and I 100% guarandamntee you, your lady will not look at another man, smile at another man, nor talk in any flirtatious way with another man. They respect their husbands so much, you’ll be blown away.

            I am completely amazed because I have Latin blood in me, and I shall make the excuse here and now, that I can be a bit of a jealous guy. But, for the first time in my life, I have not felt any jealousy in our 3 year relationship. Why? Because she has never done any of these things and I noticed that her very attractive girlfriend, who married our client from Louisiana, was the same way. A couple of years ago, the 3 of us took a trip to the Black Sea. While enjoying the warm rays, and not knowing my lady completely yet, I had that thought, that had been programmed in me by so many western women, and good looking hunky men. You know in America, what I am talking about. Girls see some dude, with six pack abs, golden tan, and even if its your wife, she’ll take a look or if she’s with a girlfriend, they’ll look at each other and raise eyebrows or giggle, right? Well, this good looking, well shaped young man, blonde hair, sun tan with no shirt, was walking by, selling fresh shrimp in a bucket. Right then, I thought, oh, here it comes, this is where I the rubber meets the road. Both girls, looked up for less than a second when the guy was yelling out his product, and nonchalantly looked down. They didn’t snicker, look at each other. In other words, no reaction! I was flabbergasted, but at the same time, I knew I had crossed into a world that was made for me. On the other hand…. while living there, I got into trouble quite a few times for letting my eyes linger…..what can I say? Latin blood runs deep inside me…still have to sneak a peek. Go ahead feminists, take your shot!! I still have a hot wife and a beautiful daughter!!!

            And now Seeker, to touch on your other question, about Ukr ladies outside of the Ukraine now. I only know a few here in Germany. One is 29, married to an American. She moved her when she was 14. I mentioned her in my first post. She’s a bit westernized, a little materialistic, and so her husband works his butt off to support her “wants.” In other words, he has already spoiled her. But, they’ve been together for 6 years, so I’ll give her that. The other lady is older, married to a Brit and they’ve been together for about 20 years. I have met an extremely gorgeous young lady with dark hair and blue eyes, from Kazahkstan, in a Mexican restaurant. I asked her how her English was so good and she said she “was” married to an American (GI). So, if I was single and knowing what I know, no matter how mesmerizing she is, I would not pursue her, knowing that she’s probably lost her eastern values. That is one thing that I stressed with my wife at least a dozen times before we moved her to Germany. Do not change. Do not let herself become westernized. Do not let herself start wearing jeans all the time with sport shoes. Teach our daughter the same. I playfully have threatened, if she changes, we’re moving back to Ukraine. She sees the differences here and understands my feelings and thankfully is on the same page as my wishes.

            So Seeker, I don’t know what to say because I have been in your shoes before. You have a job that doesn’t allow you the time to live long enough in Ukraine or other EE nation, and you’d like to have an EE lady as your wife. I just don’t have any “dating an EE lady in the west” experience, to give an educated opinion. I can only speak for ladies that were in my city in Ukraine.

            I hope all or any of this helps you and any other gentlemen in their dreams for a precious EE lady.

            Best wishes all and thank you Scott for your great blog. Keep smashing those feminist weirdos with your intelligent words. The pen is mightier than the sword, buddy.

            OUT. Rodney

          • Scott and Rodney, thanks so much for your concerns and insights guys!

            Don’t worry Scott. I’m not talking about divorcees but young women in their 20s from EE that came here to go to a real university or work at a real professional/white collar job; that are are single without kids. I wouldn’t touch a divorced woman with a 10 foot pole…almost as bad as a woman with some other guy’s spawn. I have turned done some really good looking girls from SA in their 20s that were divorced in the past…due to the same concerns that you have stated. Plus, I’m Catholic, another reason I don’t want a divorcee. Some guys have criticized me in the past for not pursuing these girls after they gave me their number but why should I waste my time pursuing divorced women when there are fresh crops of new women in their 20s that are single with out kids from SA or EE? I am just very cautious with women from SA or EE that have lived here for more than a couple of years. As noted above.

            Rodney, thanks for the advice! Yeah I’m kind of in agreement with you. Actually your advice is not that much different from a couple of other Latin guys that I have talked to in the past a few years ago. They said don’t marry the ones in their early 20s only date them, only consider marrying the ones in their mid-20s, because they are less likely to radically change on you.

            Well after hearing both of your views. I’m reassured that I’m on the right path about rejecting women raised in the west. I just sticking to young women born and raised in SA or EE.

          • Scott: not sure if this will come through or appropriate as breasts are revealed in this Russian, “you’re on candid camera” clips. My point is. In my email yesterday, I talked about Ukr women are jealous of their men, protective and not wanting their men to soak in looking at other ladies. If this clip comes through, you will see in its natural form what the wives/girlfriends do when this lady exposes her breasts. It nails/confirms what I was talking about.

          • Scott, can you do me a huge favor? Can you re-post that video clip separately? It stayed linked to my business FB page, and since you are prior mil, I am doing my best to run a business but also not be out there in the world. We’ve got a high terror alert here as we live near the bases. That’s why I don’t use my real name here or post my last name in my business FB. Trying to limit the world exposure (yeah, good luck with that on FB, right?). Thanks for your understanding.

  2. Some interesting observations here about the differences between Eastern and Western women.

    I, and many other Western men, were struck by the femininity of Natalia Poklonskaya during the Crimea situation last year, a woman in a high-profile professional role. I can’t begin to imagine a Western woman performing that role with her level of femininity. More often than not, a professional and educated woman in the West reads masculine bull-dyke. I’ve seen thousands of professional and educated women here in Australia, but not one of them come close to Natalia’s femininity. It’s quite tragic.

    For years, I honestly thought there was something wrong with me. Of course, I met women and had relationships in Australia, but deep down something was wrong. I thought it was my fault for years, because I’ve never been a dominant masculine man. Then I traveled a bit through Asia and discovered the reason why I wasn’t being a real man – I didn’t have any motivation to be masculine while surrounded by masculine women. It kills a man’s natural instincts, which I honestly believe is one of the main reasons why most Western governments are experiencing economic problems. If a country fails to motivate young men to be the best version of themselves, this will eventually lead to less tax revenue and long-term demographic problems.

    Being in Asia and attracting interest from demure, feminine women brought out my masculine side, and I felt 10 years younger and motivated to be the best version of myself. Compare this to being with Australian women who can’t shut up for more than 5 seconds, even though most of what they say is vapid, boring nonsense. Even in photos Aussie women have to dominate and attention-whore. It’s sickening.

    Now I understand why every civilisation over thousands of years on every continent had ‘traditional’ roles for men and women. They simply utilised the respective strengths of each gender so that men and women worked together to create a better world and raise productive children for their civilisation. It’s Western ‘civilisation’ over the last 50 years that has it wrong, and it’s declining as a result.

    On a more positive note, I feel there’s something in the air in the war between feminism and masculinity. Maybe I’m an optimist, but there seems to be a growing awareness of the pathetic state of marriage in the West. There was recently a very interesting article of the “Sexodus” of young men who are no longer interested in marriage, written by a gay man funnily enough, but this article was huge and seemed to hit home with a lot of men.


    Obviously not many men are aware of the quality of Eastern women yet if they feel the need to ‘check out’ of society. Maybe that’s a good thing for us!

    • You make some good points. Being around feminine women brings the Man out in you. Our Western society bashes masculinity at every turn and even trains young men to be effeminate.

  3. “5. Not speaking his language”

    Have you noticed that most western women have the most irritating voices in the world? It’s like they are little whining girls in older women’s bodies. Combine that with nagging and screaming. It’s literally hell on earth. What man wants to deal with that after a long stressful day of work and a crazy commute?

    • Good point. Alana always laughs, “American women are so stupid! Don’t they understand anything about a Man? They should shut up and let him talk, Men like to talk, if you listen, you can have any Man you want.”

      We were watching the show “The Bachelor” and actively criticizing the show and she was shocked at how catty the women were and how THEY NEVER SHUT UP. The poor Bachelor never talked about himself, he only listened on and on about all these narcissistic psychotic women pander on and on about their short and limited life experiences. As they talked, they just expected the whole world to stop and listen; they were so uber important.

      An EE Woman was taught by her Mother and Grandmother to be a conservative Lady and to also listen to the Man. It is amazing how well this works.

      • The Bachelor…yahhh…I can’t watch those type of shows. You are selling your point of view…actually the only married guys that I know that are really happy are married to native women from SEA, LA, and EE. One of my friends is currently dating a EE girl and he seems like he has total peace of mind. Like I said before I probably will end up marrying a woman from a place like Russia, Ukraine, Brazil, or Argentina. I want to be happy, with a happy wife, and a peaceful house.

        • Absolute peace of mind.

          As for the Bachelor, it’s like a train wreck, you don’t want to look at the horror, but you just can’t look away. It is a perfect exam of the wreck that is the American woman.

  4. Gentlemen: I found this extremely informative video on youtube and want to share with you all. I absolutely do no endorse this agency that produced it, but take it from me, the information is spot on. All of the blogs that I have contributed to this site, based on my own personal experience and observations, of living in Ukraine for 2 years, and proudly marrying a Ukrainian lady and the birth of our first child, correlates tightly with this information. This agency did a spot on interview of 3 Ukrainian ladies, fluent in English, in serious relationships with a western man. On this site, we mostly read stories from other men, or the fem-lib nut job, but I don’t recall hearing it straight from the source, the ladies themselves. This priceless info from this interview, should encourage all western males who are serious about a future for having a family, give pause for thought and really develop a plan to travel to EE. This video will also put to shame the countless and retarded femi-lib women who comment on Scott’s site about “how we are losers for wanting to go to EE and find our bride.” Yeah, right. Watch this interview western women. As they say in Vegas poker, “read ’em and weep.”

    • Great video. The women gave honest and informative opinions of what they want. Another thing non of the women are fat or sloppy (western woman comfortable) in appearance, plus I noticed the nails and long hair. I really hate short and medium length hair, there is nothing feminine about it.

      • Hi Seeker, glad you took the time to watch the video. It says its 1 hr 30, but I think there’s a glitch and its only 45 min. I agree with your noted observations as well, and wish to add:

        You can see they are not hot supermodel women like the agencies like to post on their websites. In my opinion, they are normal ladies that anyone can meet in Ukraine. They are very attractive in a natural, wholesome way. Like you said, Seeker, hair, nails, cosmetics, clothing, figure.

        They have varied backgrounds and careers (I heard dentist, teacher but didn’t catch the other). But, the main theme that I heard over and over again no matter the question; it was always brought back to family and their values. Once again, let me point out, that each and every time a fem-lib writes on Scott’s blog, none of them ever emphasize this most important point that I always hammer them with. Its all about them, their movement, their rights, but none of it is about raising a family.

        If more western men watched this video and believed its content, as I have validated for the past 6 months, I believe more itineraries are going to be filled with guys going to the EE.

        • I looked at some of Alex P’s other videos. Very informative advice and information from normal looking Ukrainian women that don’t have unrealistic expectations. The women are normal looking but they are still attractive because they actually take care of themselves. Amazing…grooming, putting the fork down, and long walks…works wonders!
          None of these Slavic gems babbled any fem-lib nonsense either, most want a good husband and healthy children, they desire a happy family.
          A western…woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle…well I’ll just go where I am wanted.

  5. https://www.yahoo.com/news/mom-taking-step-dating-tripped-daughter-050906243.html

    Hmmmm, wonder why her daughter is so upset that her mother wants to date???? Thanks to this continued trend in the US, our children (our future), are just going to follow the example given to them. Create more children with non-existent parents, further dysfunction and further disintegration of core family values. My Ukrainian wife and the EE wives of this forum can’t even fathom doing this to their family. Fkg feminism – aren’t you proud of yourself?

    • Hey Rodney,
      Great find. Reading this kind of stuff doesn’t even really raise my blood pressure anymore, unless the single mother has the audacity to think I would be interested in her! Really?! If I really wanted to man up and take care of a child or children…I would just marry a young woman from a place like Brazil or Russia and just produce my own children. OK. That just raised my blood pressure…a little.

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