… to anyone and everyone who thinks that today’s “modern woman”
is anything like the Mothers of the last generations,
perhaps you need to open your eyes wider …
This article is partially in reply to Frank’s Feminism is Shooting itself in the Foot and also to the string of comments that I’ve seen lately that don’t like hearing criticism of Western women. It seems that some don’t see a difference between their Mother or their Grandmother and the current generation of 20’s – 30’s spoiled self-entitled ladies that we find in America today.
Frank’s argument that there are many women available in “his circles” that would make great wive’s and mothers. I recently spent a few weeks in his neck of the woods (Orange County, California) and I did see a lot of beautiful (thin and feminine-dressed) women. But, the affluent neighborhoods of Orange County are hardly the “norm” for America. And more so, even a glamorously dressed OC woman who doesn’t cook and clean, thinks that the solution to any marital problem is a divorce lawyer away, I think that if we open our eyes and widen our gaze, we might just see what I’m talking about.
Now, Frank is not 22 years old. He’s not dating 22 year old OC women. If he was, he would probably be in shock as to what they are looking for. Some young American women have long lists of requirements for their Men and some don’t like Men at all (see photo above). If you just look around, you’ll see that the women of today are nothing like our Grandmothers and Moms:
If you really think that there is nothing wrong with the current state of afffairs, have a read of this article, wherein a Man describes that feminism has taught him that allowing his wife to sleep with other Men is OK: What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism
“When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist. “
In his comments about this website, Jim complained:
“My mother, an American lady, just turned 76. My parents have been married for over 50 years, and it’s their first and only marriage. I am proud of their accomplishment and wish to have the same, but given I am in my 40s, I doubt that will happen. It is sad to know you feel the need to disrespect her.”
Did he mean that his Mother and Father have an open-sexual relationship and that my criticism of said lifestyle was offensive to him? Or is it that complaints of the debasement of our Western morality = complaints about Womanhood altogether? The two are not the same and there should be a distinction. Instant attack on any criticism of modern feminism is a tactic that has worked well to silence conservative Men (and Women) who speak out about feminism and the moral corruption of our society.
When you talk to American (Western) women aged 18-35 today, you will find a wide gamut of ideas that were unknown 50 years ago. The age of feminism has ushered in an era of “anything goes” and now women, faced with so many choices, look and look for the ever elusive unicorn of happiness. I’ve only recently become aware of such ideas as “Sexual Positivism” and “Rape Culture.”
… in less than 50 years we have gone from this to rape culture and sexual positivism ...
“New” ideas like this have completely permeated our Western culture and are now taught in the Universities under the guise of “Women’s Studies.” And don’t think that this feminist brainwashing begins at 18, it begins with Disney cartoons wherein young ladies are taught that they can’t rely on Men and new role models are created that are unrealistic and historically inaccurate. In shows like “Vikings” and “Marco Polo,” you see lady warriors that never existed and young ladies are exposed to the lie that they can do “anything that a Man can do,” and even that women did everything that Men did.
In the end, you have an entire generation of women who are taught that their independence is everything, husband and children be damned. And in an ever perverse twist of society, now they are taught that every Man is a rapist, any Man who acts like a Man is oppressing them and any sexual contact that they don’t steer 100% is rape or assault. Women are actively encouraged to act like sluts and then blame Men when their behavior is frowned upon.
The sex-positive movement evolved out of the sexual liberation of the late 1960s and grew initially in the shadow of the body-positive movement. The term gained wider appeal around 1980 with sex-positive feminism, also known as pro-sex feminism, sex-radical feminism, or sexually liberal feminism and was adopted at the same moment by gay and lesbian activists. The word has in the wider sense been defined by Carol Queen in Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture(Pittsburgh: Cleis Press, 1997):
“Sex-positive, a term that’s coming into cultural awareness, isn’t a dippy love- child celebration of orgone — it’s a simple yet radical affirmation that we each grow our own passions on a different medium, that instead of having two or three or even half a dozen sexual orientations, we should be thinking in terms of millions. “Sex-positive” respects each of our unique sexual profiles, even as we acknowledge that some of us have been damaged by a culture that tries to eradicate sexual difference and possibility.”
The more and more I look at the young women of the west today, the less and less desirable they look to me. Frank sees his Wife and her peers but I suggest that if he was a college aged Man in the dating pool, he would be shifting his eyes to Russia or Columbia. I met a woman recently who was a full-fledged feminist who is involved in a polygamous relationship. She is in a long term relationship with a Man who has a similar relationship to another (or more) women. She sees him on certain days and he sees his other “wives/girlfriends” on other days. She explained that this is very empowering to her because (as she is free to see other Men – she doesn’t because she only loves him) it beaks all of the expectations of a Patriarchal society.
I really wanted to meet that guy. He has amassed a 13th Century harem by convincing these women that dating him was feminist and empowering.
… tomorrow’s American mom …
Today, we have young women acting in whatever way they want getting their ques from the TV, websites and the magazines that say, “Do whatever feels good.” And when it doesn’t work out, blame a Man. The Mothers and Grandmothers of past generations that raised dignified ladies have been overrun by bra-burning women’s lib ladies of the 1960’s. The hippies of the Woodstock generation at least had some conservative values when they grew up. But they shed most of those and the latest catch of American women were born and raised on ideas that Men are abusers and that all women are victims.
A 20 year old woman today doesn’t have to take any responsibility for her life yet Men must be responsible for everything that went wrong. Young women today have a piss-poor attitude, especially when compared to Women of other countries. What Man wants to be in a marriage that has all of the responsibility but none of the rewards that come with marriage? No Man I know. Year by year, dissatisfied Men leave miserable marriages and then these “feminist” women self-validate the idea that Men are no good. Perhaps, if they treated their husbands better, they would still be married.
If you just look at the expectations of a young lady from 1956 (marriage, love, children, sacrifice) you’ll find that they vary widely from a young lady from 2016 (independence, sexual positivism, environmental and rape culture activism). Why oh why, would a 30 year old Man, interested in marriage and family, be interested in a woman who thinks he’s a predatory rapist? Who wants to marry a woman who is more interested in saving AIDS babies in Uganda than preserving the history of her family by having her own children? Who wants marriage to a woman who is interested in “sexual positivism” when this means that her bed has a turnstile on it and she’s had more passengers than the Long Island Ferry? Great as a sex-toy sex buddy, but I don’t want to “Wife that.” I don’t want my children raised by a woman who will teach my daughters that the only way to find happiness is through sterility, independence, group sex and who defines her happiness only through her sex experiences.
… Ekaterina, from somewhere in the north (think Siberia) who I talked with before I met Alana. Ekaterina is a doctor and is looking for a husband. She is looking for a Man “whom I can give all my love to…” – notice she says nothing about her fear of rape culture nor does she require a Man who will accept all of her desires for sexual experimentation with other Men (sex positivism)…
When you meet, for the first time, Women from Eastern Europe and they explain that their idea of happiness is taking care of their husband and children, getting and giving love, you almost think that it is a trick.
Life is short. It will rush past you before you realize it. I see so many women chasing happiness through social activism and I wonder where to they find the time. And then, you look at the birth rates of Americans today. The Women that I know who have 2 or 3 children, they don’t have time to save AIDS babies or complain about rape culture. They are busy living their lives. When they are in their 60’s with so many Grandchildren, they will look back at their lives proudly with a sense of fulfillment. I wonder what does a social activist look back on when they are 60? At Christmastime, do they share photos of their naked parades?
… enjoy the party ladies,
it will be decades before you wonder what went wrong …
For the Men reading this blog for the first time, look around. Take a look at your Mother, then look at your Grandmother. How do they act? Did they walk through the streets naked complaining about a misogynist culture? Is your Grandmother happy? Mine was. Now talk to a 25 year old woman and tell her that you want two children and that you expect her to be a good Mother. See how long you can keep her attention.
29 November 2015 Just a few days ago a man in prison for rape convictions was cleared by DNA testing after 16 years. These cases are utterly heartbreaking, reputation tarnished, and 16 years of his life gone for a crime he didn’t commit. Yet we live in a society where I interview feminists on the streets and they tell me they want a guilty until proven innocent policy. They want these men locked up without a trial.
Rape cluture, schmape culture.
Now, go and look at some of the profiles of Ukrainian, Russian and Colombian Women. Compare the two side by side and think about what you want, what will make you happy. Life is short. Choose wrong and you’ll pay for it for decades. Be careful, do your due diligence, and,
… Ekaterina again… dudes, she’s a doctor! – smart and beautiful with no regard for social activism …
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