… beautiful Woman from Elena’s Models that I talked to in my initial search …
Every week I get a sob story from some guy who’s out $10,000 or so. He was in love with a Russian (or Ukrainian) Woman. And after a long “engagement’ or love affair, he began to send her money. And everything went fine with their relationship until he became a little suspicious. And when he stopped sending money, she cut off all contact.
There was only one problem.
He never actually met her.
As much as I pity these guys, I can’t help but NOT feel sorry for them. For the same reason that I don’t feel sorry for someone who pays full retail for a car, at high interest, and also only gets 20% of the value of their trade in.
You can’t fix stupid.
And for the 98% of guys who are on Anastasia.com or some other scam site that makes you pay credits to talk to a fat guy (when you think you’re talking to your fiance) in Kazan, there is nothing I can do. Nothing, except, preaching the gospel about how the system works. If you choose to read and believe, great. If you don’t, you deserve the burn that will eventually come.
… A quick Google search about Russian scams doesn’t even produce any legitimate hits – the scammers have introduced so many sites that you can’t even sift the good info from the bad …
I can’t remember if it was reader FC or Seeker, they’re such stellar contributors here that sometimes the comments blur in my busy schedule, but one of them said that the problem in the West is that pussy-hungry males will do anything just to get in bed with a woman. And if she’s a Russian Woman, he will believe, say, or do just about anything for a shot in bed.
How true it is.
Each day, as I think about some of the outlandish American women in my former workplaces, I can’t help but think that the reason so many of these drama queens exist is because Men put up with their shit. If we were to teleport them back to 1820, not a single Man (respectable man at least) would give them the time of day. But today, we have women acting like little children and Men gush over them and reward them with gifts and affection.
And when the American Men get shat on, what do they do? They turn East and try their broken tactics on Women who actually have to compete. They turn to countries where the mafia control vast networks of gambling houses, drug distribution channels, and vast stables full of beautiful, but broken Slavic Women. A pimp knows how to extract juice from a John and so the Eastern (and Western) “dating agencies” know how to extract the juice from today’s “online John.”
At least when you visit a prostitute, there is an exchange: sex for money.
In the online Russian dating world, there is no exchange. A Man sends money to some fat guy in Siberia, believing he’s chatting with his “fiance,” and after some time, he has nothing to show for it. A hooker in Vegas would be cheaper.
And so, how do you know if the Woman you’re talking to is legitimate? It’s simple.
Follow these rules:
1. If you haven’t met her. She isn’t real.
Now, I get all the time, guys who tell me, “Sure I know her, we Skype every day.” And when I ask when they met in person, I find out the schmuck doesn’t even have a passport. This is not real. If you haven’t been to her home, met her cat and her mother, you’re not in reality. You don’t have a girlfriend.
Let me say that again.
1. If you haven’t met her, she isn’t real. If you haven’t physically flown to Russia/Ukraine, taken her to dinner, met her sister and her Mom. She isn’t real.
And now, I get to my second rule, because guys fall for this one all the time.
2. If she is asking for money, she isn’t real.
Russian and Ukrainian Women are proud. They don’t want your money. Well, some do. The scammers. If she is asking for money, rest assured, as soon as she gets her legal residency in your country, she will divorce you and run off with the pool guy. If your relationship looks like this, then run, don’t walk to the nearest exit.
A Russian Woman is interested in romance and family, not your money.
So, and I’m probably repeating myself here, if she is asking for money, she isn’t real.
3. Read her body language.
Now, #3 is a given that you’ve actually gone East to meet her. When you hold her hand, kiss her, walk with her, is she attuned to you? Does she listen to what you say as though your words hold all the wisdom of the world? If she acts infatuated with you, she probably is. Some Women can act like they are but in time, it will break down. If she is only in it for the green card, her romance towards you is work and in time, she will get tired of it. Is she always annoyed with you? Doesn’t want you to give her affection
Then she isn’t real.
Russian Women love to be kissed, have their hand held, receive flowers, etc. They love romance. If yours is irritated and just wants to know when the visa is ready. Well then, she isn’t real.
1. You need to met her.
2. Don’t send money.
3. If her body language suggests she isn’t attracted to you, then she isn’t.
And now, lets say that you’ve followed all three of these rules and you’ve met a wonderful Woman and you’re planning on bringing her to your home country. All should be well. You should feel inside, very comfortable and secure that all is well. But, lets say you don’t. Do you have some nagging suspicion that all is not well? If you do have some suspicion, it is possible that you’re just nervous or it is possible that your intuition is telling you something.
If this is the case, it pays to do your homework.
If you have followed my earlier posts, you have learned how to screen a Woman that you’re interested in – long before you go to meet her. You should have done an online search of her dating profile, her photo(s), her email address and done a reverse IP address lookup. If you haven’t done this, perhaps you should.
And assuming that you have done all of this and all should seem well, but doesn’t quite, then you might consider further investigation. In the case of my Wife, I had NO doubt that all was above board. I remember thinking to myself that the only way it WASN’T real was if she was a KGB spy and she was playing me for state secrets that I didn’t have. Now, if I was a diplomat in Moscow, I would have been suspicious. But what secrets did I have?
Indeed, when I met my Wife’s family and my soon-to-be Mother-in-law grilled me about how long I intended to wait before starting a family, I knew all was legit.
And so, maybe you’ve made a few trips to Russia or Ukraine to visit your fiance. And all should feel well but it doesn’t. Perhaps you should consider a background investigation. I do not yet know of an investigator in Russia – if anyone knows of one, please post to comments or email me. But I know of an investigator in Ukraine that I’ve received good reports from. They can do a background check on a Woman in Ukraine and can tell you if she is what she purports to be.
Divorce court isn’t cheap. And when you invite a Wife to your country, you declare to your government that you will be responsible for her welfare. You will be legally & financially responsible for her. When you look at that responsibility + the prospect of getting ass-raped in divorce court, you need to be 100% certain that all is legit. If you feel it isn’t, then investigate and think with the big head and not the small. The cost for a quick investigation is minimal when you consider the downside risk.
For those of you in the early stages of this quest, don’t give up. Don’t be discouraged at the idea of dead ends in your search for love. I truly believe that there is a perfect Eastern European Woman out there for every Western Man who is looking. I believe that the only true shot at love, in today’s feminist world, is by looking East. As feminism has become institutionalized in the West, there is NO viable alternative to looking for your bride overseas. Once you grasp that reality, then it becomes a “when,” not an “if” that you will find an overseas bride.
Don’t be discouraged, follow the advice of those who have gone before you and use common sense.
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